In the first step of my new approach to stopping a fear reaction to a person in real-time, I peeled off the first layer of separation, as all the thoughts, backchat and energetic experiences and reactions that I could identify within myself towards and connected to this specific individual - through firstly writing it out for myself on my computer so as to pinpoint what is actually coming up within myself that is creating the energetic experience and reaction of fear within myself when I see her, and then secondly taking those points of insight and incorporating them into a physical real-time application of self-forgiveness in moments when I see her and I see the energetic reactions coming up within myself.
And so, in my previous blog, I ended with how I noticed that, after this application, upon introspecting myself again in the context of my experience around this specific individual - there was still something there, as an 'experience' when I am in her presence, which is the second layer of separation that requires further investigative writing.
What I then did, in this Second Step of Changing my Reaction and Experience towards this One Person, is again write out in a document on my computer what this reaction/experience consists of. And to more practically be able to do this - I had a look at what thoughts and energy came up within myself After I had been with or around her, because, in the moment that I am with/around her itself, I am so completely enveloped by the energetic reaction that I cannot see it clearly - and when I am sitting in front of my computer, the event and the experience has already past so it becomes difficult to recall what was happening in that moment. Whereas, when I check what is going on in my mind immediately after I have been in the specific reactions/experiences, I can more clearly see what I had been participating in.
For instance, what I found for myself was:
- the thoughts are:
Does she like me?
What does
she think about me?
I hope I
made a good impression
I hope she
likes me
What if she
doesn’t like me
I have to
make sure that she likes me
Maybe she
doesn’t like me
- The energy/feeling/emotion:
Uncomfortability
Fear
Uncertainty
Instability
Doubt
Petrifaction
- The physical experience:
Constriction
in stomach and chest
Shortness
of breath/holding my breath
After I had this written down - I proceeded with writing out the self-forgiveness and self-commitment statements.
Self-Forgiveness
Self-Forgiveness
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to, when I am in X’s
presence, react with the thought that ‘she has to like me’
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to, when I am in X’s
presence, react with the thought that she has to be my friend
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to define my relationship to and
interaction with X within and as the polarity of like and dislike – and to
therein experience myself within an energetic experience of desire for a
relationship, within and as the thought that ‘she likes me’ and fear of being
rejected, within and as the thought that ‘she doesn’t like me’
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to, when I am in X’s
presence, think ‘what if she doesn’t like me’, connected with the emotional
experience of fear
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to define myself within and as
the thought ‘what if X doesn’t like me’, connected with the emotional
experience of fear – instead of seeing, realizing and understanding that the
desire for X to like me is a preprogrammed thought/belief that I have accepted
and allowed to be programmed within myself as what I have copied from my
parents, as the belief/idea that ‘relationships’ are about ‘like’ and ‘dislike’
as an energetic polarity-game that is played between and among humans –
wherein, I have accepted and allowed ‘relationships’ to exist within and as
myself and within and as this world and reality, as an energetic experience as
a feeding ground for the mind, rather than as a physical expression of Hereness
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to define ‘relationships’
between humans within and as an energetic polarity of fear and desire,
connected with the words ‘like’ and ‘dislike’ – by having allowed myself to
define ‘relationships’ between humans within and as personal Survival, wherein
I want other humans to ‘like’ me, as a way of creating the idea, belief and
perception within my mind that I have a ‘network’ of ‘support’ within and as my
‘friends’ and ‘family’, as all the beings that ‘like me’, who will ‘help me’ to
survive in this world
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to define my relationship
towards X within and as personal survival, by reacting to her, when I am in
her presence, with the backchat that ‘I need X to be my friend so that I
can survive in this environment/group’, connected with the emotional experience
of fear
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to hide the self interest that I
have accepted and allowed to exist within and as myself as the desire for
personal survival, behind the emotional experience of fear when I am around
X – instead of being honest with myself about what is really happening in my mind, which is that i want to use X for my survival through creating and establishing a relationship based on 'Like' with her
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to, when I am in X’s
presence and when I see X, react with the backchat in my mind that ‘I need
to make friends with X so that I can feel safe and supported’, connected
with the emotional experience of fear – and to therein use X in the name of
my personal survival in this reality --- instead of standing one and equal with X, and seeing X as myself – within and as the realization that I have
allowed myself to create and manifest a reality of ‘survival’, by having
allowed myself to separate myself from the beings around me, within and as a
fear of survival, rather than caring for all the beings around me in oneness
and equality with myself, based on the principle of doing onto another as I
want to be done unto
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to separate myself from X,
by reacting to her when I see her, and when I am in her presence, with the
thought in my mind of what would happen to me if X doesn’t like me, and if
I don’t have any friends, and if she were to reject me – within and as and
connected to a fear of survival that I have accepted and allowed myself to
define myself within --- instead of standing stable within and as the moment
here, in oneness and equality with X --- and therein seeing and recognizing
her as myself, and so communicate and interact with X as how I would like to
be communicated and interacted with – and so therein, allowing myself to get to
know X as who she really is as a being in oneness and equality with myself
and so get to know who I am within and as X
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to separate myself from myself
as X, by having accepted and allowed a fear of survival to exist within and
as myself in separation of myself – and by, when and as I see X, reacting
within the fear of survival, connected with a thought of what would happen to
me if X doesn’t like me, as an image of ‘blackness’/’darkness’, that I
within my mind interpret as ‘death’ --- instead of seeing, realizing and
understanding that this image of ‘death’ within my mind, connected with the
thought/backchat that ‘I will die if X doesn’t like me’, is a preprogrammed
emotional experience and image/thought within my mind, wherein I have allowed
myself to separate myself from myself as what exist here, as other humans, as X
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to separate myself from the
thought that ‘if X doesn’t like me, I will die’, connected with the image
in my mind of ‘darkness’ that comes up as a thought, when I see X and when
I am in her presence, by having allowed myself to connect the emotional
experience of fear with the thought/image of ‘darkness’, and the backchat that
‘if X doesn’t like me, I will die’
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed a polarity to exist within myself of
‘life’ and ‘death’, by having allowed myself to connect the word ‘death’, with
the image of ‘darkeness’ within my mind, and connected with the emotional
experience of fear – and to therein have allowed myself to connect the word
‘life’, with the image of other people and connected with the energetic
experience of desire --- and that I have therein accepted and allowed myself to
separate myself from myself as life, by having allowed myself to define ‘life’
within and as an image and an energetic experience, rather than seeing, realizing
and understanding that ‘life’ as who I really am is all that exist here, which
is undefinable, and not limited to a definition, an experience and/or a
polarity – and that, the polarity of ‘life’ and ‘death’, connected with the
energetic experiences of desire and fear as feelings and emotions, is a
preprogrammed system-design that I have accepted and allowed to exist within
and as myself as a system of separation, wherein I have allowed myself to
separate myself from who I really am as ‘life’ as all that exist here
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to separate myself from the word
‘survival’, by reacting with the thought that ‘I need a relationship/friendship
with X in order to survive in this world’, when I see X and when I am in her presence – and by reacting to this
thought/backchat with the emotional experience of fear
I forgive
myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to see, realize and
understand that the desire for X to ‘like’ me, is entirely based on
self-interest, as a fear of survival that I have accepted an dallowed myself to
define myself within, and that thus my expression towards X, wherein I try
to be ‘likeable’ and I try to get her to like me and enjoy my presence, is a
lie, wherein I am manipulating X through presenting ‘false information’
within and as a false representation of myself
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that, by defining
relationships within and as a polarity of like and dislike, based on fear of
survival, I have allowed myself to define relationships with other humans
within and as Manipulation and deception – as I will change and compromise
myself within my expression to manipulate other people in their feelings,
thoughts and emotions, to try and get them to like me – wherein thus, I will
completely misrepresent myself in order to ‘create/establish relationships’
Where, I
forgive myself that I have never accepted and allowed myself to see, realize
and understand how these relationships with other humans that I believe I need
for my survival in this world and reality, cannot in fact be trusted – as these
relationships are entirely based on and defined within lies, deception and
manipulation as what I have accepted and allowed to exist within and as myself
as the starting point of the relationship-creation
I forgive
myself that I have never accepted and allowed myself to see, realize and
understand how I have manifested and created the experience of fear, unsafety
and insecurity within myself in relation to other people in my world and
reality – by having allowed deception, manipulation and lies to exist within
myself as the starting point of my relationships with other humans, wherein I
have allowed a world and reality of deception and lies to exist without any
real care, equal and one with what I have accepted and allowed to exist within
and as myself
I forgive
myself that I haven’t accepted and allowed myself to see, realize and
understand how I create and manifest my perception and experience of my world
and reality as what I see with my human physical eyes – through and within what
I allow to exist within and as myself in relation to what exist, and thus what
I accordingly accept and allow to exist within and as all that exist here as me
– and that thus, the anxiety, fear and insecurity that I experience when I am
around X and people, based on the fear of being disliked and rejected and
so a fear of not being supported and thus not surviving, is because I have
allowed a polarity of like and dislike to exist within myself as the starting
point of my relation to other people, where I will push people away and reject
people when I don’t like them, based on an energetic emotional experience, and
only support and care for those that I ‘like’ within and as an energetic
feeling experience --- where thus, this apparent ‘care’ and ‘support’ for
others within myself cannot in fact be trusted as it is not based on principle
and stability and unconditionality within myself, but on an energetic reaction within and as the mind
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed en energetic polarity of like and
dislike within and as emotional and feeling responses to exist within myself in
relation to other humans – where, I will only ‘care’ for and ‘support’ those
that I experience a positive feeling reaction towards within myself, and I will
reject those that I experience a negative emotional reaction towards – instead
of standing as a point of stability, reliability, unconditional support and
consistency within and as myself in relation to all beings in my world and
reality, and to within that, stand as a living example of what I would like for
myself
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to be programmed within and as
the belief and idea that I need and require to have a specific group of
‘friends’ as specific people that I ‘like’ and that ‘like’ me, as my specific
group of support in this world and reality – while ‘disliking’ everyone else
that does not belong to ‘my group of friends’
And, I
forgive myself that I have never accepted and allowed myself to see, realize
and understand how, within this, I have accepted and allowed a polarity to
exist within and as myself of positive feelings, connected with the
idea/thought that I am ‘with my friends’ and negative emotional experiences,
connected with ‘the world outside that is not part of my group of friends’ –
wherein thus, I have allowed myself to in fact create and manifest the belief and
thought within myself that I need and require to have my group of friends to
support me in this world and reality, and to protect me from all the ‘other
people’ in this world that I have connected a negative emotional experience
with --- instead of seeing, realizing and understanding that I have created and
manifested the desire for friendship as the desire for support in this world,
because I have allowed myself to define every other human being in this world
as ‘my enemies’, within and as the emotional experience of Fear that I have
allowed myself to define myself within, where thus, I am in fact wanting and
desiring ‘protection’ from myself as what/who I have allowed myself to be and
become within and as myself as a self-interested and untrustworthy individual
who makes decisions that affect other beings, based on emotions and feelings as
‘like’ and ‘dislike’, rather than on the principle of what is best for all
I forgive
myself that I have never accepted and allowed myself to see, realize and understand that when I
behave and express myself towards other beings from the starting point of
wanting them to like me, where I step into the pleaser character and try to
give them a positive feeling – wherein I am supporting their ego, I am not in
fact standing as a point of support for who they really are within and as
themselves as equal and one with myself, as I am actually in fact manipulating
and deceiving them to get what I want from them, which is their support, within
and as them ‘liking’ me --- instead of seeing, realizing and understanding,
that any point of perceived ‘support’ that exist within and as an energetic
experience of feelings and emotions, is not actual trustworthy support --- and
that, within this, I am manifesting the consequence of the experience within
myself of constant uncertainty, insecurity and fear that they will for some
reason suddenly ‘not like me anymore’ and so fear of thus losing my ‘support’
I forgive
myself that I have never accepted and allowed myself to see, realize and understand
that ‘support’ cannot be in fact real when It exist as an energetic experience
within my mind, connected to a thought, when it can suddenly ‘stop’ or
‘disappear’ or ‘shift’ or ‘change’ – and that thus, by placing my trust in how
humans feel or think about me, whether or not they ‘like’ me, I am in fact
giving my real self-support away by not trusting that which is unconditionally,
consistently, constantly HERE as the physical reality, the physical body
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to want to create a relationship
based on ‘like’ with X and to therein try to find out what she likes and
what she is like, so that I can express myself and be like her, so that she
would like me --- instead of seeing, realizing and understanding how I am
within this, creating and building a relationship with her based on lies,
manipulation and deception and that I am within that, creating the experience
of insecurity, fear and uncertainty within myself when I am around her, because
subconsciously, I know that I cannot trust this relationship based on ‘like’ as
it exist within and as deception, manipulation and lies
I forgive
myself that I have never accepted and allowed myself to see, realize and
understand that ‘friendship-relationships’ where I experience a ‘connection’
with another human being, and believe and think that they care for/about me and
support me – is in fact based on lies, deception and manipulation that I use to
get people to ‘like’ me and feel attracted/interested to/in me – where thus,
the ‘support’, ‘care’ and ‘connection’ that I experience with them is in fact
only a thought/idea and experience in the mind
that isn’t actually real as it is not based on who I really am within and as myself, but on an
idea/picture/image that I present of myself
within and as extensive self-comprimization
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to, when and as I see X,
react with thoughts in my mind that ‘she has to like me’, connected with the
emotional experience of tension, anxiety and fear
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to separate myself from X by, when and as I see her, react within and as the emotional experience of
tension, anxiety and fear, connected with the thought of ‘what if she doesn’t
like me’ and ‘she has to like me’
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to, when and as I see X, to
react within myself with memories of relationships with girls from my past and
how I would always experience and define the relationship within and as a
polarity of fear that they won’t like me and desire for them to like me,
connected with the polarity experience of fear, anxiety and tension and
excitement, connection, friendship and companionship
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to define myself within and as
the memories of how I experienced myself in relation to my ‘friends’ as other
girls in the past, within and as the energetic polarity of fear and excitement,
connected with backchat of ‘they have to like me’ and ‘what if they dislike me’
– and to therein express myself within and as the polarity of fear that X will dislike me and desire for X liking me, where I compromise myself
within and as my expression by trying to deliberately act in ways to play into X’s feeling reactions towards me, and to therein limit myself within and as
myself and my expression, by interacting with X based on preprogrammed
patterns of experience and behavior that I have copied from my parents, rather
than standing stable within and as myself and get to know and discover who I
am, through getting to know X as who she is, by not allowing myself to be
directed and influenced by preprogrammed inner experiences of fear and desire
and backchat within how I approach her and interact with her, wherein I will
always only see and experience what I have accepted and allowed to exist within
and as my mind as thoughts, feelings and emotions
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed preprogrammed experiences with regards
to ‘relationships’ with other women that I have copied from my mother, to
direct, determine and influence me within and as my interaction and
relationship with X – instead of standing stable within and as breath
within and as myself and get to know who I am within and as my interaction and
relationship with other women and see, realize and understand that thoughts,
feelings and emotions that come up within myself when I am around other women,
is always a pattern of behavior and experience that I have copied from my
parents when I was a child and that I have accepted and allowed to exist within
and as myself by having allowed myself to become a complete copy of my parents
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed energy as emotional and feeling
reactions to thoughts and backchat to determine and define who I am in relation
to other women, like X – as a preprogrammed pattern that I have allowed
myself to copy from previous generations through following the example of my
parents --- rather than standing as the self-directive principle within and as
myself and giving myself a chance to get to know who I am within and as myself
as life --- and so get to know, discover and explore who I am within and as my
relationship with other humans, by standing stable within and as breath within
and as the moment HERE, and through investigating the thoughts and
feeling/emotional experiences that come up within myself and so for myself
actually directly see what is real and what is preprogrammed patterns of
knowledge and information and experiences
I forgive
myself that I have never accepted and allowed myself to investigate the
thought/backchat in my mind that ‘people have to like me’ and the
belief/thought that ‘I need friends’ and ‘people have to want to be my
friend’ - and so therein define myself
within and as the emotional experience of fear, connected with the
thought/backchat that ‘people don’t like me’ and the experience of
excitement/desire, connected with the thought that ‘people like me’ --- and so
never having accepted and allowed myself to see, realize and understand that I don’t actually need people to like me,
as ‘like’ and ‘dislike’ is based on a preprogrammed system of survival within
and as the mind, wherein I am seeing and experiencing reality from a very
limited perspective, only seeing what I want to see, within and as the polarity
of ‘people like me’ or ‘people don’t like me’, and where I am not seeing
reality as what it actually is by not placing myself in the shoes of other
beings and in that, seeing who they are within their life and so see the
totality of their being and where they stand within and as themselves, rather
than only seeing a tiny piece/part of them within and as the thought of ‘they
like me’ or ‘they don’t like me’, wherein I am completely consumed by
self-interest, placing myself as the centre of the world/universe and believing
that all that matters in reality is how
people think and feel about ‘ME’ --- instead of actually caring about all of
Life that is here, one and equal with myself, and within that, seeing,
realizing and understanding that, when I allow myself to value how people think
and feel about me, within and as the desire for them to like me and the fear
that they would dislike me, I am in fact allowing and justifying self-interest
within beings, rather than standing as a point of common sense, self-honesty
and self-responsibility, according to and within the principle of what is best
for all – and to therein thus express myself from the starting point and within
a Principle, and not an energetic experience based in self interest, within and
as the realization and understanding that expression based on principle can be
trusted as it is consistent, constant and stable in every moment, serving all
as life unconditionally equal and one, whereas, expression based on experience
as thoughts and energy, cannot be trusted as it is constantly fluctuating
according to the whims of thoughts and energy that only serves self-interest
I forgive
myself that I have never accepted and allowed myself to see, realize and
understand that I am justifying self-interest by defining myself within and as
the energetic polarity of the desire for people to like me and the fear that
people won’t like me – as I am, within and as this polarity honoring,
respecting and supporting thoughts and feelings within human beings as well as
myself within my attempt to make them ‘like’ me and to avoid them ‘disliking’
me – rather than honoring, respecting and supporting life in oneness and
equality through standing as a living example of what is best for all and so
expressing myself in interaction, communication and relation to other humans
based on a principle of applying common sense in investigating all things and
aligning all things to establishing a world and reality, and relationships that
are best for all life on earth --- wherein, rather than compromising myself and
adapting myself to what people ‘like’ within and as their thoughts, backchat
and feelings, I stand stable within and as myself and apply common sense in not
allowing self-interest in another as myself
I forgive
myself that I have never accepted and allowed myself to take responsibility for
life on earth within and as my environment as what exists here – by defining
myself within and as an energetic polarity within my mind as the desire for
people to like me and a fear that they won’t like me, wherein I accept and
allow self-interest as separation within other human beings and so within this
world and reality, and so accept and allow the manifestation of consequence
here within and as life on earth --- by not standing within and as principle,
in taking responsibility for all life that is here, in ensuring that the
expression of humanity is aligned with what is best for all life and is thus
not consequential --- so as to prevent harm from being done unto life as me
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not like myself within and as
defining myself within the desire for other people to like me
I forgive
myself that I haven’t accepted and allowed myself to see, realize and
understand how I am in fact rejecting myself within trying to get other people
to accept and like me – wherein thus, I am manifesting the experience within
myself of ‘being rejected’ and so, am creating the desire within myself of
being accepted/liked by other humans --- instead of liking and accepting myself
first and foremost within and as the realization that I am responsible for my
experience within and as myself and I am
the starting point of my experience of and within myself
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see, realize and
understand that, when and if I allow myself to define myself within and as the
thought of ‘X has to like me’ coming up when I see her – that I am in fact
actually saying that ‘I don’t like myself’ because I am willing to compromise,
suppress and change my expression and who I am within and as myself so that
another person would feel positive about me – and within that, abdicate who I
am within and as myself entirely and so make the statement that I have no
respect, regard or care for life within and as myself
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to have no respect, regard or
care for life within and as myself, by accepting and allowing myself to desire
being liked by X, and by therein being prepared to compromise, suppress and
change myself within and as my expression in this reality and within myself
completely in order to please her
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to abdicate all self-respect and
regard and care for myself by defining myself within and as the thought that
‘X has to like me’
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to separate myself from X by
believing that I need X to exist
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to separate myself from X by
defining myself within and as the thought that I need X’s friendship to
exist
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to separate myself from X by
defining her within and as a positive energy charge and by defining myself
within and as a negative energy charge – and therein believing that I need
X to ‘be better’ than myself --- instead of seeing, realizing and
understanding that X is one and equal with myself as life within and as
myself and that I do not in fact need X’s friendship to exist because I
exist HERE, and because the friendship that I desire from X, in fact
actually exist as an image, an idea within my mind
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to separate myself from the
image in my mind of ‘friendship’, where I see people together, by connecting
that image with the experience of desire --- instead of seeing, realizing and
understanding how I have allowed myself to create an idea within my mind around
‘people who are together’ as an image that I see with my eyes, where I believe
and interpret that ‘togetherness’ within and as an energetic feeling/experience
– and therein experience myself within and as an energetic polarity within
myself in relation to the image that I am seeing with my eyes of people ---
rather than seeing, realizing and understanding that other people that I see with my eyes are
one and equal with myself, and that thus, people that are together, are not
‘better’ or ‘superior’ to myself, because the experience of superiority is
something that I have created within and as my mind
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to separate myself from the idea
that I have created around ‘togetherness’ and ‘friendship’ within my mind, by
connecting the image of ‘being together with X’ , with an energetic
experience of superiority and excitement and positivity – and by therein
defining myself within and as the experience of desire, connected to the image
of ‘togetherness’ and the energetic experience of positivity and excitement –
instead of taking responsibility for what I have accepted and allowed to exist
within and as myself as ideas, interpretations and perceptions of what I see
with my eyes, based on knowledge and information and experiences that I have
copied from my parents and previous generations and seeing, realizing and
understanding that ‘friendship’ within and as the energetic experience that I
have defined the word ‘friendship’ in my mind, doesn’t actually exist, as it is
a concept and idea that I have created in my mind within and as an energetic
polarity --- wherein I had separated myself from what I see with my eyes as
myself and had created the illusion and perception that what I am seeing within
and as ‘other people’ is bigger/more than myself, rather than realizing myself
as one and equal with what I see as others as me
I forgive myself
that I have accepted and allowed myself to define myself within an energetic
polarity relationship to X as the image of X that I see with my eyes –
by defining her as ‘superior’ and ‘more’ within my mind, by having allowed
myself to define X, within and as an image in my mind where I see X with other girls connected with the backchat that ‘everybody loves her’ and
‘she has no trouble making friends’ and ‘she is accepted by other people’ ---
instead of seeing X as who she really is, as a life form that is one and
equal with myself HERE, and therein accepting myself as who I really am as life
I forgive
myself that have accepted and allowed the idea and belief that ‘people have to
like me’ to exist within myself in separation of myself by defining the idea
that people have to me within and as the experience of fear
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear what would happen if
people didn’t like me
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear pushing people away and
people pushing me away through my behavior – and therein fear ‘losing’ people,
and fear the experience of regret within myself that I have pushed people away
and have therein pushed away my chance at friendship and all the positive experiences
of connection, togetherness, warmth, comfort, joy and happiness that I have
allowed myself to connect with the idea of ‘friendship’ --- and to therefore
always continually suppress myself within and as my expression and always try
to present and behave and express myself as ‘the good person’ and ‘a likeable
person’ and ‘a kind/nice/friendly/social/likeable person’
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to create and manifest an
energetic polarity within myself around ‘social behavior’ and ‘being social’
--- by on one side try to be social and likeable so that people would like me
and so try to ‘pull’ people to myself --- and on the other side experience
resistance towards ‘social behavior’ and ‘being around people’ and ‘being nice
and friendly and polite and sociable’ --- wherein I have allowed myself to
create consequences for myself within my world – by then deliberately pushing
people away by going into the negative polarity of resistance and pushing and
rejecting and giving up, where I in my backchat go ‘I don’t need you people’,
‘im better off alone’, ‘I m done trying’, ‘I m just not a social person’, ‘I
like it better to be alone’, ‘I m just not good with people’, as all the
justifications that I create within my backchat/thoughts to justify me pushing
people away as a reaction to the experience within myself of desire to be with
them and ‘have them’ and be close to them --- instead of realizing who I am
within and as myself, one and equal with other people, and therein realize
‘relationships’ with other people, as a self-expression rather than a
possession and possessiveness within and as an energetic polarity of fear and
desire, of pushing and pulling
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to define ‘who I am’ within and
as myself within and as an energetic polarity experience of excitement and
depression in relation and reaction to other people – where, on one side my
backchat goes ‘they have to like me’, ‘I need them to like me’ and on the other
hand, my backchat goes ‘I don’t care’, ‘I don’t need anyone’, ‘I ll just be
alone’ --- wherein I have trapped myself within and as a polarity of ‘being
together with people’ and ‘being alone’, rather than seeing, realizing and
understanding that I am in fact always alone within and as myself, whether I am
physically around other people or not
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to define ‘being alone’ within
and as the thought of ‘not being around other people’
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to define the word ‘alone’
within and as the fear of not being around other people
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to define ‘being around other
people’ within and as the experience of desire – by defining ‘being around
other people’ within and as a positive experience of happiness and joy
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to define myself within and as
the backchat that ‘I must have a relationship with people and I must be around
people so that I can experience this happiness and joy’, connected with the
experience of desire
I forgive
myself that I have never accepted and allowed myself to take responsibility for
the experience of joy and happiness that I see projected within the thought of
‘being around/with other people’ by having allowed myself to define myself
within and as the experience of Desire with regards to being around and with
other people
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to desire ‘possessing’ people within
and as the desire to be with them and ‘have them’ as my friends – instead of
realizing myself as one and equal with human beings and seeing them as myself
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to hide the desire to be around
and with people and to be close to people behind the fear that they will see
this desire within me and then reject me
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to hide the desire to be close
to people and be around and with people and ‘have’ and ‘possess’ people as my
‘friends’ and ‘partner’ behind a deliberate picture presentation of myself as a
‘nice, kind, sociable, friendly and shy person’
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not be honest with myself
about who and what I have allowed myself to become within myself as the desire
for relationships with people as a possession that I have accepted and allowed
to exist within and as myself – by having allowed myself to define ‘who I am’
within and as the thought and picture presentation of myself as a ‘nice,
loveable, sociable, friendly person’ --- instead of seeing, realizing and
understanding that this picture presentation is an utter lie as the reality of
myself is that all that I am as what I have become is the desire for relationships
as what I have allowed myself to hide within myself
I forgive
myself that I have never accepted and allowed myself to realize myself as HERE,
AS this reality, where I am never alone as I am always in all ways HERE, with
all that exist here—where, there exist no such thing as ‘rejection’, and
‘rejection’ is an idea in the mind that isn’t in fact real, and neither is
‘acceptance’ – in terms of that Acceptance is always HERE, as the physical
reality and existence of myself on earth, where I am always ‘together’ with all
beings that exist here --- where, the idea of togetherness that I have created within my mind, connected with an
image of people who are laughing and touching each other, and talking and ‘having
fun’, and a positive energetic experience/value, is not in fact real, as
‘togetherness’ is not in fact defined by energetic experiences or ideas in the
mind, but rather by the fact that the very physical existence that is HERE, is
the manifestation of ‘togetherness’, where all physical manifestations that
exist are Together HERE on planet earth --- where, this togetherness is not
positive nor negative, it is a Living Fact, as How it simply is and what/how
things simply are
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to connect an energetic
experience of excitement and arousal and anxiety with ‘being physically
together with other people’, by having allowed myself to assign a positive
value to the word and idea/concept of ‘being together with other people’,
within and as how I have allowed and accepted myself to define the word
‘togetherness’ within and as a physical proximity and touch with the humans
that I see with my eyes
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to define ‘togetherness’ within
and as the word ‘belonging’
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to define the word ‘belonging’
within and as a positive energetic value
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to define the word ‘belonging’
within and as a polarity of ‘acceptance’ and ‘rejection’ based on thoughts and
energy within the mind --- wherein I believe that I ‘belong’ with specific
Groups of people if and when they accept me within their judgments thoughts and
feelings in their mind, and that I ‘do not belong’ with them if and when they
do not accept me within their inner thoughts and feelings
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to define myself within and as
the desire to ‘belong’ with people, as an energetic experience connected with a
thought in my mind – and that I have therein allowed myself to define
‘belonging’ within and as an energetic experience that only exist in the mind
and is thus not real
I forgive
myself that I haven’t accepted and allowed myself to see and recognize the word
‘belonging’ within and as its actual real physical meaning, in line with its
existence within and as this physical reality – where the word ‘belonging’
simply indicate how a specific physical
manifestation in this physical existence is part of a specific group of
physical manifestations – where, this ‘belonging’ doesn’t in any way imply an
energetic experience as a feeling, it is simply a physical observation of
physical facts
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed a polarity to exist within myself
within and as my mind, of ‘belonging’ and ‘being rejected’ – as a preprogrammed
interpretation of reality from the minds perspective, that only exist with the
purpose of generating energy – by/through connecting the words ‘being rejected’
with a negative value and the Negative
energetic experience of Fear, and connecting the word ‘belonging’ with a
positive value and the positive energetic experience of excitement
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to be programmed within and as
the mind to look at and interpret and experience reality that I see with my
eyes, within and as an energetic polarity of ‘belonging’ and ‘being rejected’,
in relation to other humans – and to thus therein define myself within and as
the energetic polarity of fear of being rejected and desire to Belong ---
instead of seeing and realizing that this polarity of being rejected and
belonging as a negative and positive experience, doesn’t actually exist and is
in fact a consequence of how the human has allowed human society as ‘life on
earth’ to exist within and as survival – where ‘belonging’ is assigned a
positive value as ‘belonging’ is defined within the word ‘survival’, and the
idea that ‘one has better chances at survival when in group’ – where thus the
words ‘being rejected’ is associated with the experience of fear of not
surviving --- and where thus, I am not existing within and as oneness and
equality with the physical reality, which is that I am HERE, thus I ‘belong’
with and as all that exist as all of existence, because I exist HERE – where
thus, ‘being rejected’ or ‘rejection’, within and as the physical reality,
simply refers to the physical act of returning something or sending something
back - as in ‘Return-Ejection’, where
one Eject something/someone from ones person/group/environment and Return it
from where it came – where thus, the word ‘rejection’ in itself is not
Negatively charged – it has only become negatively charged within my mind
because I have allowed myself to associate ‘being rejected’ with a personal
desire for survival and so with an emotional experience of Fear
I forgive
myself that I haven’t accepted and allowed myself to see, realize and
understand that if and when I allow myself to define myself within an energetic
experience of fear in relation to the word ‘rejection’ and ‘being rejected’,
based on a personal fear of survival, connected with the thought that ‘if
people reject me I will not be able to survive on my own in this world’ – then
I am accepting and allowing the current world-system to exist as a system of
Survival, a system of Fear, where every being exists in fear of being rejected
by other humans, which in turn creates manipulation and deception within humans
and human relationships where humans try to ensure and protect their Position
in ‘the group’ so as to ensure their personal survival in this world and
reality
I forgive
myself that I have never accepted and allowed myself to take responsibility for
the fact that if and when I allow a fear of being rejected to exist within
myself, as a fear that I will be pushed out of the group of humanity and Life
and that I will not be able to survive on my own – that, within that, I am
accepting and allowing and creating a world and reality where this ‘rejection’
that I fear actually exist --- as, within and as the fear within myself, I am
in fact stating that ‘yes, this exist here in this reality’, and thus I am
accepting and allowing it to exist by reacting to it --- rather than standing
within the principle of oneness and equality as what is best for all – and
stand as a living statement that I do not allow a system/existence to exist
where beings are cast out and rejected from the group and left out to starve
and die without any form of support, within and as the principle of doing unto
another as what I would want to be done unto --- where, I stand as a point of
absolute, unconditional and total support for all physical manifestations in
this world and existence, to ensure that all life as me is cared for and
supported and thus able to survive in this physical world and reality
Self-Commitment
When and as I see X and I see the experience of excitement come up within myself, connected with the thought that 'X has to like me' - i stop and breathe, and i see, realize and understand that if i allow myself to follow this thought and the energy, that i would compromize my expression in that moment by trying to manipulate X into liking me, and that i would therein accept and allow my relationship with X to exist within and as lies and deception - and thus in fact create the fear of being rejected within myself, as i have based my relationship with X on me rejecting myself and the idea/belief that X would reject me if i wouldn't submit to manipulation to 'pull' her in to liking me
where thus, i commit myself to take responsibility for what i am creating within myself, my world and my reality - through the energetic desires that i allow to exist within myself - where i realize that, by desiring X to like me, i am in fact creating the experience and fear of rejection within myself --- as the desire to be liked is based on a fear to not be liked and an assumption that X doesn't actually like me for/as who i really am and that thus i have to change myself to manipulate her into liking me
where thus i commit myself to, within taking self-responsibility, interact with X from the starting point of me accepting myself as who i am, and the realization that if and when i believe and think that X will reject me or has rejected me, that this is an indicator that i have allowed a desire to exist within myself for X to like and accept me - as a desire to experience a specific Positive Feeling that i have connected with the thought that people 'like me' - where thus, the interpretations of X's behavior or expression that 'she doesn't like me' would be a reflection of the polarity that i have allowed to exist within myself -- where, within the very desire for her to like me, i am in fact saying that She doesn't actually like me, which i am then seeing projected within her expression towards me, which is thus only myself as who i have allowed myself to be and become within and as myself
so, when and as I see the experience of fear and insecurity come up within myself connected with the thought 'what if X doesn't like me', when i am around or when i see X - i stop and breathe - and i see, realize and understand that the experience of insecurity and fear in relation to X is what i use in my mind to hide the self-interest behind that i am actually participating in in relation to her --- where, i see, realize and understand that the only reason that i feel insecure and fearful and tense when i am around her is because there are things of and within myself that i am attempting to hide from her, such as a desire to manipulate her so that she would like me and so that i can experience a positive feeling within my mind that i have connected with the thought that 'people like me'
and so, i commit myself to practice and walk the process of mastering and developing integrity and self-honesty within my expression when i am around X - where i stand within and as the principle of what relationships between humans should be, which is a point of mutual support and assistance, a point of honoring and respecting each other within and as who we are - and thus not a power play of manipulation and deception in the context of personal survival, that only furthers a fear of rejection and a distrust towards all humans
i commit myself to stand as a trustworthy human being through not allowing myself to hide personal backchat and desires towards others behind fear - but rather be honest about the self-interest that i have allowed to exist within myself, and find ways to stop the dishonesty that i have allowed within myself in my relationship to other beings, and thus within this world
When and as i see the thought that 'she will reject me' connected with the experience of panic and petrification come up within myself when i am with X - i stop and i breathe - and i see, realize and understand that this is a preprogrammed experience that i have programmed within myself through defining myself within memories where i believed/thought that people had rejected me and i experienced myself negatively, that i have not allowed myself to take responsibility for and so have never seen, realized or understood that this experience is a part of myself that i have separated myself from through reacting to it with fear and thus fearing the experience of fear
where thus, i commit myself to, rather than run from the preprogrammed experience of fear that comes up within myself when i am with X, stand stable and breathe and apply self forgiveness in the moment when i see that i am not stabilizing myself effectively through breathing -- and therein stand as the living statement that i will not allow rejection to exist within myself as an emotional experience of separation based on 'dislike', because i realize that within that i would be accepting and allowing rejection based on emotional reactions of 'dislike' to exist within all of life as me that exist here on earth and thus accepting and allowing a world and reality to exist where there exist no real unconditional support within human relationships towards each other and other life forms and relationships end up existing within and as humans abusing each other for personal survival --- which, i will not accept within myself as all life here
i commit myself to stand as a point of unconditional support by not allowing fear and/or desire to exist within myself towards and in relation to X and so not allowing myself to separate myself from X - and allow myself to get to know X as who she is as a part of myself as life Here - and thus allow myself to explore what unconditional support in oneness and equality really implies
So, this was the second step of changing a fear reaction towards person X, where i have uncovered a second layer of separation as thoughts, feelings and emotions within myself. After this process, I again tested my application by investigating myself within and as how i experience myself in relation to person X, when I am in her physical presence. Where, I noticed that there was a definitive change in the point of wanting her to like me, and I found i was much more comfortable in my expression when i was with her.
However i could still detect some movement within myself towards her - which is the next layer of separation that i will be walking and sharing in my next blog.
To be Continued...
For more Context and specificity in walking the Steps of practically Changing a Fear Reaction towards A Person in Real-Time - Watch my Vlog "2013 Changing A Fear Reaction towards A Person in Real-Time - Part 2"
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