2012 Do we have Sex, or does Sex have us?

"Sex has become the very point, the very purpose, the very reason that exist within a human being to continue existing and living and walking within this world and this reality - it is sex that defines who you are as a human being and what you're doing in this world and this reality, whether having a family, having a job, traveling the world, participating in your religions, spiritualities, movements -- everything is driven by Sex."

"And we're going to show you exactly how and why through and within the 'What is Sex?' interviews - 'what is it that makes and drives human beings to be who they are?', 'what is it within us that is giving us that experience of 'being alive'?'"

~ Sunette Spies


The 'What is Sex?' interviews made by Sunette Spies is absolutely the most thorough, specific and radically eye-opening interviews that I have ever heard about the concept of 'Sex' - which, let's face it, is a concept we just can't seem to get enough of.

She has taken the time and effort to investigate the point of Sex, the entire existence of Sex, through asking the questions that no one in the history of mankind has ever asked - going beyond science and what is generally accepted as apparent 'research' into the 'what is Sex?' question.

She has discovered that Sex is in fact the most important aspect of the human beings' existence and experience in this world, even the very answer to life's most existential questions that our 'great' philosophers have been bending and cracking their heads over for aeons of time.

It is fascinating that Sex plays such a vital (in a very literal sense) role in not only our lives as human beings, but all life on this planet - all is birthed and created through Sex. And yet it seems that all humanity, and specifically those in power in this world which is religion, education and government, have been doing throughout history is to cover up Sex and sexuality, to a certain extent pretending that it doesn't exist and to even take it so far as to judge it as 'bad', 'impure' and 'sinful'.

And through time we have been tacitly accepting this way of living, which is in essence when really having a look at reality quite absurd if not completely insane - because it allowed us to 'evolve' to a point in time where sex and sexuality has become this perverted, 'back-door', secretive part of our reality as reflected in pornography in all its many different 'styles' and 'gradations' that are the 'image and likeness' of what exist in the Human Being's 'secret mind' as what they/we all secretly want/desire/demand.

Sunette Spies has conducted elaborate 'interdimensional research' - which is research and investigation into the very structures that make up reality as who we are here, pulling everything apart of who we believe ourselves to be and what we believe reality to be, to present us with this fascinating and magnificent Interview Series that has a serious look at this intriguing question of 'What is Sex?' in all it's various dimensions.

This Interview Series is exclusively available at the Eqafe Online Store:

What is Sex? - Introduction

What is Sex? - Part 7

What is Sex? - Part 8

What is Sex? - Part 9

What is Sex? - Part 10

What is Sex - Introducing the Relationship-System - Part 11

What is Sex - The Primary and Sub Relationship-Systems of Mind and Sex - Part 12

What is Sex - Relationship Profiling - Part 13

What is Sex - How we create Relationship Profiles - Part 14


And for those who are still not convinced - here is a free interview that she made as an overview of what to expect within the 'What is Sex?' Interview Series. Enjoy!

2011 Sexomania - a New Disorder on the Rise

As read on: http://english.pravda.ru/health/12-12-2011/119924-sexomania-0/

There seems to be a new 'psychological disorder' called 'Sexomania' arising in the human society. This 'disorder' is an 'uncontrollable urge'/desire to act out sexual desires and thoughts within the mind.

Obviously now science as doctors and psychiatrists are going to start investigating this and doing research and then coming up with all sorts of medications and 'treatments' for this apparent 'illness' and 'disorder' that seems to have, just like all other psychological disorders, popped up from nowhere - treating the human 'suffering' from this 'disorder' as a 'victim' of its own mind, of its own desires, thoughts and 'urges', that apparently needs to be suppressed through medication.

What is fascinating about the human society is that human beings in general believe it to be 'normal' that we have 'sexual thoughts, desires and urges' - it is what makes us apparently 'alive' and 'who we are', but then you have all the various 'deviations', 'mutations' and 'disorders' within those sexual desires such as for instance sexomania, necrophilia, pedophilia, exhibitionism, voyeurism, etcetera and also 'conditions' such as Tourettes Syndrome that is most known for the tendency of the person to shout out words relating to sex that is generally judged as 'vulgar' in public places.

So because there are just so many sexual disorders and dysfunctions in the human mind, this should serve as a warning sign to us, showing us that there may be something dysfunctional about our society as the way that we look at and treat sex and sexuality, as how sex and sexuality is being presented to us during our childhood - that is causing these disorders, instead of treating the 'patient' as if there is something wrong with that person and as if that person just got that way because it is apparently 'who they are'.

If one have a look at our current human society within common sense, one might see the distorted way that we deal with sex and sexuality and we may be surprised that there aren't more people with sexual disorders - then again there are also so many things that are happening behind closed doors in people's homes that no one ever gets to see. In our human world, sex and sexuality is not discussed openly, most people feel awkward talking about it and especially parents mostly have a difficult time talking in a 'normal'/relaxed/open way about it with their children, and often then have a tendency to go and make up stories about 'where babies come from' instead of simply telling the truth.

We seem to all desire sex and think about it more oft then naught though no one ever really speaks about it and pretty much everything that has to do with sex gets covered up, shoved under a bed, hidden behind a curtain or locked in a closet. This makes 'sex' and sexuality a 'secret reality', that people participate in in the secret confinements of their mind as thoughts, there where no one else can see. It isn't difficult to see that this can easily become quite perverted as everything gets hidden and locked away - with some more than others as it all depends on how extensive the judgments about sex and sexuality were that you learned from your parents.

So because sex is generally accepted by all of us human beings as something that is, has always been and always will be a 'secret' as personal thoughts and desires within the mind of each person, we accept that human beings think perverse thoughts, in fact we support the perverted nature that sex has become for the human. Obviously this will inevitably result in lots of people 'losing it' because inside themselves they have all these thoughts, feelings and desires of sex and sexuality that is all based on pictures that were automatically downloaded into us from childhood, as sex seems to have taken on this subliminal nature that is like a constant presence in our human society yet not openly talked about - and there will be lots of beings not knowing what to do with these desires and thoughts that seem to be 'bad' as a generally accepted judgment about sex and sexuality in society, so they won't be able to openly express and talk about what is inside of them as they feel like they should do their best to hide and suppress it. Though the problem here is that the mind can only be suppressed to a certain extent and so there are people who are able to live a relatively 'normal' sex-life and then there are those that cannot 'contain' all those hidden thoughts and desires inside themselves and those are the ones that act on it and go out and rape someone or expose themselves or sexually abuse a child, etcetera.

The truth is that we are all collectively responsible for such acts and for the existence of for instance Sexomania - because we all collectively participate in covering up sex and sexuality and making it a difficult topic to talk about as if it is 'bad', and this in turn causes for beings to walk around with this perverted reality inside themselves, believing that they mustn't talk about it or be open about it because it is apparently 'bad'. So, who creates sexual deviancy and disorders? We all do! - this is not the 'fault' or sole responsibility of those that are programmed with this specific mindset of 'the sexually deviated', because something like sexual deviance can only exist within a society that is already completely dysfunctional in term of communication between beings


So the only reason why beings continue acting out these abusive thoughts is because they don't dare to be honest about what exist within themselves because of the fear of being rejected by society, as the fear that we all exist within and as.


Learn to be Self-Honest and learn to stop all fears, desires, thoughts and hidden realities within self as there is no need to keep anything hidden what so ever - life is meant to be lived free within and as oneness and equality with all life here. Visit Desteni at www.desteni.co.za to get to know the practical tools to free yourself from the prison of the mind as the perverted human reality as who and what we have all allowed ourselves to become.


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2011 How Guru's and spiritual leaders will be no more in an equal money system.

In the 'human world' currently you have the leaders and then the followers, the leaders are those that have lots of stuff to say that apparently is 'interesting' and 'smart' and 'enlightened' and 'wise' and the followers are those that listen to the words and follow the words that the leaders speak.

That is pretty much human beings in this reality, wherein most of us are trying to become a 'Guru'/'spiritual leader'/politician/president/superhero/or some other form of leader as a being that all other beings respect and look up to. We desire to have lots of 'insights' and realizations about life, so that we can use those 'insights' as knowledge and information to 'wow' other people, so that they may believe and eventually follow me. We wish to not be questioned in what we have to say, we just want people to accept and respect what we have to say, as if my words are the words of God as a superior entity.

Every being is like this in one way or another, for example parents and teachers are those that are 'the Guru' towards the children wherein they speak their insights about reality as knowledge and information that the child requires to simply accept and never question because the parent/teacher is always right.

This way of communicating with each other among human beings wherein we just desire respect and attention and validation for what we are saying from each other, and in that we never really say anything REAL cause it's all blabla, is fueled by the current money system. yes, the existence of Guru's and spiritual/religious leaders, also the existence of saints, of mediums and any and all forms of 'leaders' or apparently 'superior beings' is only here because of how our monetary system that we are living in at the moment is designed and it will all cease to exist in an equal money system.

Allow me to expand on this point so you may also see for yourself the bullshit that we've come to accept as our current way of living within and as the 'human world'.

Why does the human being require a spiritual/religious leader? Why do we need a Guru to tell us what life is and who and how we 'should' be to be a 'good person' in this world as in being 'enlightened'?
That is a very interesting question to consider as the answer will lead us to look at the system of money that we live in, the answer to this question isn't 'because the human being is inherently evil/weak/dumb and thus he needs guidance', that's just what we've been taught to believe by... the system.

Within the current money system there is no real safety or security, the 'establishing of safety' and creating an environment for ourselves in which we can feel safe, comes with a lot of stress, because we are well aware that the money system doesn't actually care about us, we are its 'puppets', we have to work for it, not the other way around, it doesn't work for us, to give us security and safety, no we have to work to secure the existence of the money system, to keep the money in the system flowing, otherwise it will not support us. The current money system is like a big entity on itself that require us human beings to work for it, that sucks the life out of us so that it as an 'entity' can continue existing, and so each generation of humans that is born into the system faces the same fate as their forefathers, of being squeezed dry by the money system, create money-slaves for themselves and then die.

Because there is no real safety or security, we feel unsafe and insecure, that's where the stress that we experience in our daily lives comes from, because there is no actual safety for us in this world, as the system that we exist in is not based upon actually taking care of the beings living/existing within it, it only cares about its own survival as a system.
And because we experience this stress as anxiety, feeling insecure and unsafe as if the ground underneath our feet is not stable/real, we then go searching for 'ailment', for a 'reason' for this existence, we go searching for the experience of safety and security that we are lacking in our lives and which we see then in the form of Guru's and spiritual leaders who promise us that there will be plenty safety and security in the afterlife if you are a 'good person for God' or 'once you become enlightened'.

We have come to accept this experience of stress and anxiety as unsafety and insecurity within ourselves as real and 'who we are', never actually looking at the cause of it and never even considering that it could be different. All that needs to change is the system, and who created the system? Who is keeping the system 'alive'? We are!
So therefore it shouldn't be difficult to simply change it so that this time the system will work for us, to ensure/create real safety and security for ourselves in this reality, which is perfectly doable.

In an Equal Money system, wherein safety and security is a given that you don't have to work for and is already provided from the moment you take your first breath in this world, we will no longer experience stress or anxiety, and therefore we will not feel the need to turn to God or who or whatever, because we will not need 'saving' as we will already be in heaven, the heaven that we human beings have created for/given to ourselves by having created a system that actually supports us within our existence in this reality. So then we can start expressing ourselves freely, we will not need each other anymore from the perspective of getting money to survive, we will not have to deceive each other anymore to get respect and attention and to get a following as to ensure me getting money to survive. My survival will already be taken care of, so now i can go into this world and live, i can truly investigate the world/reality that i live in without having to take money and survival into consideration.

Money and survival is at the moment all that we take into consideration because we have allowed a system to exist in this world that doesn't even care about us, because we haven't realized that we exist, not the system, it is us as beings living here that exist, and therefore we create the system.

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2011 being a silent participant - isolating self as ego

watch this video to have more perspective on what i ll be writing about: revenge of the ego


the key understanding here is that: when you find yourself 'extracting yourself' from the group that you are standing with, becoming a 'silent participant' by for example not speaking up and openly communicating, by doubting yourself in your expression towards the group and by not blogging or vlogging, by starting to isolate yourself in self judgement, then know that the ego is taking its 'revenge' on you.

the ego is making you believe that you are 'not worthy' of standing as life, together with all the other beings that stand as life, that you are not worthy of openly communicating and expressing yourself and that for some reason you are 'less than' and 'inferior' and there is 'something wrong with you'.

Watching the video 'the revenge of the ego' has opened my eyes to what i had allowed myself to do and what I was allowing to exist within myself, which is 'the revenge of the ego'. I noticed myself doubting myself in chats or in talking to people or addressing people, I started to feel as though i have 'nothing to write about' in my blogs and vlogs, i was doubting my expression.

This 'doubt' is in fact only ego, wherein i try to hide myself, within believing that i am 'not worthy' or that 'there is something wrong with me' because of something i have done which is based on my MEMORY of the things that i have done, that i use to judge myself HERE.
When there is hesitation, thoughts, doubt within expressing myself and when i do not spontaneously express myself in the moment, then I am in fact trying to hide the truth of myself because i believe that it is 'bad' and 'unworthy' and that 'others must not find that out about me', and within that i will not stand stable anymore, because i doubt, i use thoughts to 'twist' and 'change' the 'truth of myself', to make me more 'presentable'/'good' in the eyes of others, thus actually lying about myself.

so, within the Desteni group, as beings who walk together in standing as life, it is easy to, within this self judgement and blame, as a form of self punishment, go and extract yourself and isolate yourself completely from the group, this is where the ego has taken its revenge because you are now locked in a prison of self judgement, anger, hate, blame and regret, all alone, believing yourself to not be worthy of life, wherein you have created your own hell.

And because I as the ego that I've allowed myself to become will always use memory as things that i've done to judge myself as 'bad' and apparently 'not worthy of life', because yes, I as the ego that i ve become and lived as my entire life is truly not worthy of life. so, obviously, if i use my memory to define myself HERE then i will forever more be 'unworthy of life'.

I've already allowed the ego to take its revenge on me once within this process, by judging myself within something i did and actually believing myself to 'not be worthy of the group that stand as life' anymore, and then i completely isolated myself, locking myself up in this experience that i was creating and participating in as the ego. I ended up in a very abusive relationship, eventually being full of hatred and resentment towards my partner, completely forgotten the 'connection point' that it all started with, where everything was great and wonderful.

now everything was shit, because apparently i had become 'a better being' in the relationship, better than him, the relationship had become a power game, wherein i tried to take back my power that i thought he had taken from me, being in a constant fight and struggle, not ever experiencing that 'connection point' again. because the ego as the desire to feel powerful and important had fucked it all up.

So, this video assisted me a lot to be aware of myself going into doubt and realizing then that this is the ego wherein i try to hide myself because i judge something that i've done as 'unworthy' and where i don't want to be honest about myself completely because apparently there's something wrong with me because of what i have done.

to give a recent example: i allowed myself to be directed by the desire to watch pornography and my justification for that was a point i was doing self forgiveness on where i saw that my entire life i had been suppressing my 'true desire', which was sex and everything that has to do with sex. i found nothing more interesting and exiting than sex in this world but i allowed myself to suppress this desire, so now i saw this as my 'hearts desire' and so, being 'honest' is apparently 'following my true hearts desire', which is to watch pornography and to have sex. So that was what i did, actually believing myself to be self honest due to defining 'honesty' as 'following my hearts desire' as 'being honest about what i really want'.

not realizing that i was just fucking with myself because i was still just allowing myself to be directed and influenced by a desire, which is not self honesty, because i do not stand absolute, stable, within and as the certainty of who i am as SELF-DIRECTION.
so, when i realized what i had allowed myself to do and exist within myself, i immediately judged myself as 'bad' and felt ashamed about myself, i believed that i had 'dishonored myself as life' and am unworthy of standing as life. which is exactly how i felt when i had created the relationship, that caused me to completely isolate myself. i started experiencing doubt every time i wanted to write a blog or say something to the group or express myself.

so, i allowed my memory of what i had done to completely control me in the moment by being stuck in self judgement and shame, slowly but surely extracting and isolating myself from the group once again as the ego takes its revenge.

this i will allow no more, i will not allow myself to be deception and to try to hide myself or my past or anything of myself. whatever i have done, i will stand here within and as complete self honesty for all to see who i am so that no lies or deception exist. because this is what i stand as: the end of all lies and deception. i will be and am completely self honest within the words i speak and write here, not trying to cover up anything, any part of myself . i will not be and i am not the ego of self isolation as the prison of apparent 'unworthiness'. no matter what i have done, do, and will do, all will be and is exposed HERE as I AM HERE.



If you are ready to face yourself as the deception of the mind as the prison of you and write yourself to freedom, re birthing yourself as a new being that in fact takes responsibility for life and can start acting in a way that will support the establishment of a New system for a New World, then join Desteni I Process and investigate Equal Money.

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